April 25, 2010

  • Son of a carpenter

    When I was very young, my family moved from the mountain city of Pasto, Colombia, to the jungle town of Puerto Asís. Dad bought a couple of lots. On one he built a little chapel and a schoolhouse. On the other, he built our two-story house.

    Both places were built of cinderblocks. Dad had a machine for making them, one by one. The process involved dumping concrete into a mold and then two guys pulling down on long levers with all their weight to squeeze the block into shape. The block was set on banana leaves to dry. At some point, the machine was stolen, and Dad had to buy blocks to finish the projects. (Story of his life.) You can see from the top of the picture that it was taken in early 1964. The house wasn’t done yet. (The shelter out front was temporary.)

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    There are details I notice now about the house that I never paid attention to before, like the poured columns in the first floor walls, which are important surviving earthquakes. Later on, a big rainwater tank sat in the corner by the kitchen, to catch rainwater channeled by the valley in the roof. In the morning I had to carry my chamberpot (very carefully) to the outhouse to empty it, then around to the water tank to scrub it under the spigot with a brush and Cresopinol.

    While construction was going on, there was a workbench in what became the living room. Dad had a cool eggbeater-style hand-crank drill. I tried it one time (without asking) and broke the bit in the workbench. I felt terrible about it, but Dad was understanding.

    Mom and Dad gave me a little toolbox with a hammer, saw, and square. I had unlimited access to the scrap lumber box and the can of bent nails, which I could tap out straight on the concrete steps (with a little patience and occasional bruising). I don’t remember what I made, but I do recall straightening nails and cutting boards.

    The house had no electricity or plumbing. We used candles (many of our old books have wax stains). My sister Martha once set her mosquito net on fire reading in bed. Our living room light was a Coleman lantern that hung from a hook in the ceiling. Once it caught on fire, and left a big black circle up there.

    We had a red Willys Jeep in the early days, susceptible to flats, getting stuck, and mechanical trouble. You can see it on the right edge of the photo. The eight of us traveled the unpaved jungle and mountain roads in it, packed like sardines. Tires had inner tubes, and Dad often had to dismount them by hand, hot-patch the tubes, remount them, and pump them back up. I still remember that smell of the smoldering Vulcan patches.

    We moved to the city (Medellín) in 1967. At that point our vehicle was an Austin, and Dad also had a Vespa-type scooter. These were shortly replaced by a long Land Rover.

    Dad set up his tools in the back corner of the house, behind the laundry patio. I don’t know what projects he did while we lived in that house, but I recall straightening nails there, so I must have done stuff. When our water heater was replaced, Dad let me tear the old one apart. That was fun but frustrating because there isn’t that much to a water heater. You can’t get into the tank itself. But I went as far as I could go.

    This is the front porch of our Medellín house in about 1968. It was a very nice place, with an extraordinary view. Pretty obvious which one’s me.

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    Here’s a pic from a couple of years later (note absence of cat-eye glasses on the girls). This one shows the view from the house.

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    I changed my first tire when I was 10. We were in Rionegro, a small town high above Medellín, where Dad was leading a university student retreat. Mom took a bunch of us somewhere in the Land Rover. When the tire went flat, I discovered that I knew more about changing it than the other males present, so I was in charge. Mom could probably have handled it herself; she was extraordinarily strong and competent back then.

    We spent 1970-1971 in the US. During this furlough, Dad bought a big radial arm saw. It could rip, cross-cut, mitre, route, and drill, depending on how you set it up, and greatly increased his ability to create cabinets and furniture and picture frames. (I have that saw now, but the motor burned out years ago and I haven’t found a replacement.) We returned to Medellín with quite an assortment of tools. They were temporarily set up in the garage of a big rental flat where we lived while we looked for a place to buy up in the mountains.

    I think it was the evening of Dad’s birthday in January 1972 that he burst in from the garage, hands dripping with blood. “Call an ambulance!” he shouted, and grabbed the telephone, leaving it coated with red. He had cut off the tip of his little finger in the saw.

    Mom came groggily out of their room, then had to return for her glasses (most of us have severe myopia). She suggested getting a taxi. (We had no car at the time.)

    Across the street was a police academy, where I often hung out with the sergeant and the guards (which seems pretty weird in retrospect). So I ran over there and asked if one of their drivers could take Dad to the hospital. Within a minute, there was a Nissan jeep at our front door, and Dad was whisked away.

    Nowadays, they would probably wrap the finger in a big gauze bandage and let the tip regenerate, but back then the doctor stitched the wound shut across the end. So once it healed, Dad had a shorter finger with a vestigial nail growing right out of the middle of it. He used to waggle it at people, especially my oldest sister Christine, who found it disturbing. (I was delighted at Dad’s funeral to see that they had thoughtfully positioned that hand over the other, leaving the stump visible.)

    Two months later, we moved to a huge country house in San Cristóbal, three miles above the edge of the city. It had thick adobe walls and wooden window bars in the oldest part. Dad had nearly all of it remodeled and added a second floor, a project that went on for years. I showed pictures of the place in a post last year. Here is a family photo by the front porch just a few months after we moved in. (I just noticed that both this and the first family pic above have an onlooker in the background.)

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    Here Dad had room for a proper workshop. He made kitchen cabinets, bookcases for his and Mom’s studies, cabinets and bookcases for the upstairs hall, a lovely stereo cabinet, and the mantel for the fireplace. I spent many, many hours helping push plywood through the saw and sanding and staining it for use in wainscoting.

    We had also bought a car: a green 1953 Mercury Monterey. It could barely accommodate us, and wasn’t geared low enough to climb the hill to our house. Dad used to drop off most of us at the bottom of the steepest hill, and we had to walk up. Sometimes he would go up in reverse; it seemed to be geared a little lower than first.

    When the Mercury had a flat one morning before school, my brother Dan and I changed it before Dad was even ready to leave. He had taught us well.

    Dad sold the Mercury and bought a 1971 Dodge pickup, which came without a bed. While an enclosed bed was being made for it, we used to cram as many as seven people into the cab to get to church, school, or wherever we needed to go. I helped Dad change the brake master cylinder some years later, and learned how to bleed the brakes. I still do my own brakes, even though I don’t much care for mechanical work.

    The Dodge three-on-the-tree gearshift had a tendency to jam, so occasionally I had to jump out, pop the hood, and wiggle the linkages around until they were back in place. My parents and one of my sisters knew how to do this, too. Sometimes it happened in the middle of a busy intersection.

    My brother and I went away for high school. We boarded at the Wycliffe Bible Translators base in the eastern plains of Colombia. (I posted about Lomalinda last year.) Seniors at Lomalinda High School didn’t have afternoon classes. Instead we got vocational training credit for working. I maintained the telephone system three afternoons a week, and worked on appliances the other two. They were wonderful jobs. I made about 25 cents an hour (minimum wage in Colombia at the time), so by the time vacation rolled around, I usually had enough money to buy a couple of albums.

    In college, my skills served me from time to time. My roommate once kicked in our dorm door when we accidentally got locked out. I stained and varnished the replacement door that the university kindly installed. I also built a new narrower top for the altar at the Lutheran church my roommates and I attended.

    I spent the summer of 1981 in Aspen, on an InterVarsity Christian Fellowship evangelism project. I wasn’t very good at evangelism, but I really enjoyed working for a carpenter named Rock Mason. The house he was building was very energy efficient, with a small greenhouse to collect solar heat. Warm air was blown into the crawlspace, which was insulated on the outside so its concrete walls helped store the heat. At night the air was released into the house. There was also a woodstove and radiant flooring.

    I lived at home in Medellín during the fall of 1983, ostensibly working on my thesis project. During that time, I learned to maintain the pump Dad had set up down by the front gate, so we could have potable water from the purification plant across the street instead of unpurified water from a creek up the mountain. The pump had to be primed after the power went off, and occasionally the diaphragm had to be cleaned or replaced. I also installed a medicine cupboard and bathroom light. (The wires had been sticking out of the wall ever since the upstairs was built ten years earlier, with a mirror hanging from them.)

    A few years later Rebecca and I bought a trailer, and I built a carport for it. We had a house built in Costa Rica, and did lots of work on it. We sold it to my in-laws and returned to Dallas, where we bought a house, completely gutted it, and changed it from a 3-bedroom 2-bath to a 6-bedroom 3-bath place.

    You already know about the handyman business I started after our divorce.

    Since 2003, I’ve taken the kids up to see Dad and Jan twice a year. Dad and I built shelves in his shop for tools. It was funny to have our roles reversed: I was now the one who knew what to do, and Dad mostly did what I told him. In between my visits, he installed a nice wainscoting in the dining room by himself. We tiled the kitchen backsplash, and built a big shelf system for the garage. Last fall I built a wheelchair ramp in the garage after Jan fell and broke her arm and leg. Dad was recovering from heart surgery, so he didn’t participate.

    I wish I could have built Dad’s casket; it would have been a fitting conclusion to our relationship. But I’ll continue to visit Jan regularly and take care of whatever needs fixing on the property, and when I do I’ll think about all the things I learned from working with Dad.

Comments (37)

  • Fun to read your story. I had heard bits before – but never that much all in one place. And the family photos are cool – seeing the progression of each of you kids as you grew older.

  • Yes, this is a deep and rich creation, which I missed (didn’t appear?) on the daily subs page. Maybe others missed it also. Required reading for those of us wisely curious about what makes ‘El Spat’ tick, and know how cosmically important is a relationship like you describe with your Father, bless his memory. We have that in common, along with pioneer resourcefulness and growing up in ‘primitive conditions’, as they are wrongly termed by suburban drones.
    One picture may be missing (where there is ‘no doubt’ which is you.) Can’t find a mosquito with an over-sized brain anywhere.

  • …and I give you one-time permission to time-stamp this gem, esp. in the light of the possible bug in its promulgation on Our Host, Xanga the Great.

  • i devoured your story about you and your dad … the tool connection … i too learned so much about how “things work” from hanging out with my dad (who let me tag along alot) … even about how life works … it’s great you have these photo memories to hold in your hand … and the emotional ones to hold in your soul … i’d rec this a buncha times ifn i cood … *~)

  • What a great story and tribute to your father. Tim, and the photographs are worth several thoussands words – I especially like that first family portrait with the woman and child framed in the door way.   Wonderful.

  • @jsolberg - 

    Thanks for the tip about time stamping. I figured people didn’t read it because it was too long or the title was too religious. But now that I time stamped, I immediately had comments from two more of my favorite people. / Yeah, this was a very selective history, focusing only on some of the elements that cultivated my love of building and remodeling. And I started looking like a skeeter when I got my first glasses.

  • @windupherskirt - 

    Sounds like we have a lot in common. I had some of my best talks with Dad in the workshop. It’s pleasant to work with others, especially people close to you.

  • @Harpos_Mark - 

    I can’t tell who the lady in the doorway is. I had never noticed her before I posted this. But she is an interesting element to the picture. It’s nice to have you back and commenting. / I was trying to post a short one about Dad today, but there’s not enough bandwidth now at my kids’ house. (Rebecca’s off at a family reunion so we’re over here today instead of my internet-less place.) Got to figure out how else to get it up. Maybe I’ll copy the photos to a thumb drive or something.

  • Tim, I don’t even know where to begin to comment on this post, but let me just say that your childhood has most likely created a resourceful, knowledgable, tenderhearted man.  This was lovely to read and the pictures are truly wonderful.

  • I enjoy it when people post about their childhoods, and photographs add a lot to the story. This was very interesting, Tim. You certainly had some experiences many of us didn’t, such as scrubbing a chamberpot, but the best part is the wonderful relationship you had with your father.

    Kathi

  • @Roadkill_Spatula - Don’t get too used to it. Skeeter ((laughing)) - I am still not really here (this is only an illusion). I have absolutely no idea what a bandwidth may be, or a thumb drive, but I look forward to another post, regardless…S

  • You are the one to the far left in the first picture, right?

    We have a foreman at our company who cut off the tip of his index finger, it did the same thing with the fingernail…it is kind of disturbing…

    I enjoy so many things about this post…your attention to detail is remarkable…and it does justice for posts like these…

  • This is a beautiful account, Tim.  You had a wonderful father, and you’re fortunate that he taught you so much about carpentry and other work … my father spent very little time teaching me anything like this.

    j.

  • I cannot begin to tell you how much I enjoyed reading about your dad’s involvement~ on helping you find your carpenter’s path.  I spent many hours~ in my dad’s little tool haven in his garage. 

  • I loved every bit of this… reminded me a lot of my dad.

    I love the pictures, too!

  • This was beautiful and very touching. 

  • I really enjoyed reading this,it is a rich ,wonderful history you have.Thanks for posting it. I loved the photos.
    My husband and I took our youth group on mission trips for over 20 yrs ,to Honduras and Guatemala, Mexico and the hills of Jamaica as well as urban areas in the US like Miami and Brownsville TX. We made cement and adobe bricks.

  • Very intersting post.  I loved the photos!

  • :) what a neat tribute to your dad. :)

  • A moving remembrance. Thanks for taking the time to write it out. My dad, being a scientist, didn’t pass on many hand-skills. I think that’s wonderful that your father taught you practical a skill.

    By the way, I spent a summer (1978) on an Inter-Varsity evangelism project in Lakewood, NJ. We all worked at a six-flags park and lived at a boarding house run by a retired Russian sword-swallower. Good times!

  • Great tribute to your father and a very interesting story.

  • Very interesting story, Tim! The pictures added a lot. You’ve got a lovely family!

  • @Harpos_Mark - The internet connection at my kids’ house is used by too many computers, and we were watching an online movie as well, so it was an extremely slow connection. But I did finally get the picture of my dad’s last writing uploaded and posted.

  • @youandwhosearmy - Thanks for your comments and the rec. Yeah, that’s me. I wish it was easier for me to load photos, but I didn’t have all that much time at my kids’ yesterday, and at the office I’m not supposed to do it, so I wasn’t able to put in a couple more photos that I wanted to use. These came from a batch my sister e-mailed me; they were used in a video tribute at the funeral.

  • @ofunlo - Thanks for the rec and your comments. I’m sorry your dad didn’t spend that kind of time with you. I haven’t done as much of it with my own kids as I think I should. They have helped me with tiling jobs, but I haven’t taught them about wiring or carpentry or auto repair.

  • @WildWomanOfTheWest - @buddly47 - @eve1684 - @Vignettery - @Iloveaholiday - @idratherreadthancleanhouse - @TheSecretLifeOfPandas - Thank you for your comments and recs. I’d love to hear about your own backgrounds.

  • @ideaguy - Oh, cool, another IVCF guy! I was very heavily involved all the way through grad school (1977-1984). I learned a lot of valuable things from the meetings, small groups, programs, and books.

  • IVCF shaped me profoundly. It gave me a taste of the power of the gospel, taught me to study Scripture, gave me a love for hymns and showed me what a dynamic fellowship should look like. In many ways, I’ve been searching for it ever since. I’ve come to realize that the environment of a college fellowship is unique and can’t be reproduced in the real world, but even today, as I lead renewal in my church, that model continues to guide me. And guess who is my most trusted collaborator in this endeavor? The young woman who is the IV area director — also a member and a leader in our church. IVCF, even with all its changes over the years, plays a formative role in my life.

    (I also volunteered as staff for them the first three years out of college.)

  • @ideaguy - I was interested for a while in becoming a staffer, but I have trouble with intangible jobs. I don’t think I would have been good at it. But inductive Bible study has been helpful all my life, and the training in critical thinking, and the lessons in getting along with people, and the leadership experience. My staff worker was Steve Garber, who is now with an outfit in the DC area (http://www.washingtoninst.org/). Urbana also helped give my career direction. Now I’m in a charismatic church, and I miss the substantive teaching and the hymns. My oldest daughter was in IV for a couple of years. The others are in community colleges. I wish they had an IVCF chapter.

  • Just yesterday, Liz, the woman who I referred to, suggested that we try to do some inductive study with adults in our church. And I have taught a whole adult Sunday school class on hymns –their theology and the lives of the people who wrote them. My two oldest sons went to Penn State where there isn’t an IV chapter, but were active in the Christian fellowship, so they had a similar experience without the encouragement for deep thinking. But they’re deep thinkers anyway, so they’re ready for a life of ministry no matter what they do. And yesterday, my youngest son, the one who is the least communicative about his faith, announced that he wanted to go into missions. (We’re having ongoing discussions about this, since I’m not sure he knows what he means.)

    I thank God that all three have the concept that faith in Jesus is a whole-life thing.

  • You gained a remarkable physical competence from Dad that very few other white-collar men in our generation have, at least in my experience. I respect that so much.

    And as everyone else has said, this is beautifully written. It would have made Dad cry.

  • Great post – the family history and old photos are really interesting. Isn’t it wonderful how your father shaped your life, just by being a good Dad.

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